* Be comforted in the fact that you are not alone. Every person walking the earth knows at least one toxic person in their life. The toxic person is a family member, friend, associate, workmate, boss, etc. Toxic people come in all shapes and forms as they know no boundaries. ( ..and they do not respect your boundaries either)* A toxic person will cause other people pain, craziness, and aggravation. They are simple to recognize. Just take notice of how you feel when you are around one of these people. It will be easy to determine. You will immediately feel sick and experience physical symptoms like a headache or stomach pain. Or you will just feel like you are going crazy, but don't worry because that is the true mark of being with a toxic person.* In life, each of us has to take responsibility for our own actions. Toxic people do not do this. They have a habit of turning things around so that you feel bad, you feel guilty, and you feel like you are at fault. Remember that when dealing with a toxic person, they are responsible for their own actions, but often do not. Realize this and you take back your power.* Allow yourself to disengage, disassociate, and detach. Detachment is a process of not caring. It is something you do for yourself. It is a mental skill that takes some time to learn at first, but once it is mastered, it can help you to become stronger mentally and physically.* Most importantly develop supportive relationships with your life partner, friends, family, workmates, and associates. Talking things over with the people in your life who love and care for you, can help you to overcome the negativity of toxic people. Just as animals and children instinctively can sense when someone is good or evil, the people who love you are very good at recognizing when someone is toxic and hurting you. Loved ones are a good defense against toxic people because they can offer you good advice and support for eliminating negative influences in your life
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"Let the Stable Still Astonish" by Leslie Fields
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A friend of mine, Kathy Kennedy McConaghie,
has shared with us on Facebook this beautiful poem she wrote when she was just 17. I think it shows amazing insight for someone so young but it also shows the impact of an unpopular war on people. Many of us thought we would never see this country in a situation like Vietnam again....nor would I see my son preparing to go into war.... But 38 years later, here we are again...with no end in sight. Kathy's words have reached across the years being just as poignant and powerful today as they were went she wrote them so long ago. As she pointed out, the only difference is there is no one marching in the streets protesting....So our power to protest lies in our social networks to call for the end of this war.....
During this Holiday season please think about raising your voice, like Kathy, to call for an end to the Afghanistan war and bring our troops home. Thank You Kathy for letting me share this.
"All we are saying is give peace a chance."
We whispered to the towering gods
but were drowned out by the roaring millions,
millions of bombs killing.
Scrabbling for blood money, profitable deaths.
Please listen, we said,
Please give peace a chance.
We got out on the streets and we whispered no longer.
Talked quietly with reason to the government of people.
But no one would listen, they shoved us aside.
They could not and would not see the horrible,
the specters of maiming and death so far away.
They hurried on to believe the glory-mad lying,
turned their backs on the murdered, the hungry, the crying.
We were stunned but no longer willing to talk.
Many were desperate. "Make them wake up and take notice!"
Give peace a chance, we shouted, we sang.
We will change everything around and force you to stop killing.
We will destroy your smooth war-money-making machine.
We shouted and marched for our beautiful slogan
and finally dragged her through violent mud.
Our shouts and brave joy turned to pain, screams and fear -
they found it easy to kill us, easy to deny
our rights to the chance for beautiful peace.
They can't kill us all and we're still around.
Give a peace a chance is still a good sound.
The bombs are destroying and killing the many
but our numbers are growing and if nature is willing
the steel gods will weaken as they chase their blood money.
They will forget us and try to regain their death glory -
pitifully trying they'll know they can't win.
Peace will get that chance and we'll usher her in.
Dec 3, 2010